Actions Speak Louder than Words?
"I have always thought the actions of men the best interpreters of their thoughts." - John Locke
"Well done is better than well said." - Benjamin Franklin
"Talk doesn't cook rice." - Chinese Proverb
Throughout our lives, we've learned that what matters most is what we do, not what we say. To some extent, this is correct, especially in regards to promises. Those who accomplish quite a bit are more highly regarded than those who promise to accomplish quite a bit but don't. However, when it comes to conveying feelings, perhaps words are of greater value than actions. Sure, a necklace to say "I'm sorry" or a box of chocolates to show you care may do the trick, but are you really accomplishing your goal? Does the gift truly convey to another how you feel? A friend of mine recently ditched me to go to a movie with another and later brought me my favorite ice cream to apologize. Without even a hint of expressing regret (besides the bringing of the ice cream), we were instantly back to how we were before. This got me thinking. It seems that a gift is simply a way to "skip" doing something difficult. Saying sorry is much harder than it seems, especially if one must admit fault. Simply disregarding this process creates only a temporary solution, prompting the problem to show up even more intensely in the future. Additionally, solving the problem by using words can actually strengthen a relationship because it creates understanding, whether it be with a friend or with a significant other. Sure, a ring is a wonderful signifier of an amazing wedding, but perhaps the vows are the greatest indications.
My advice: talk over how you feel, THEN give a gift =)
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